EN (via google translate) - Following the previous post, I must say that we must start to focus on our own achievements a lot more. I guess that most people (me included) spend too much time playing attention to other people's achievements and minimizing their own victories and, it is quite easy nowadays with all the inflated reality of social media.
Another important fact to play attention is to our own circumstances, and one more time the quote of José Ortega y Gasset, “the man is the man and his circumstances”, fits perfectly here. We have the tendency to compare ourselves with others even when our circumstances are quite different. Worst. When we look at someone else's achievements, most of us have a restricted perspective where only the final results are privileged and all the road of struggle, all the fails and frustrations tend to be neglected and ignored. I guess that Jon Acuff told to "not compare your beginning to someone else's middle" and it fits here too.
Sometimes I must confess I can't avoid some feeling of frustration when something does not go the way I plan, but I've learned a long time ago to not put myself in a position of comparison with others, especially when the circumstances are totally different. I have learned too to not minimize my achievements and that, happiness it's not a constant in life. For sure you will fail, you will feel frustrated, you will want to give up, but at the end, you must raise yourself and keep going with your life.
About my colleague, I must say that, at the university, he was a kind of person who was always happy and always socializing, hearing that he was kind of avoiding all of us because of his current situation was kind of shock.
After a long talk where I have tried to make him understand that all of us are facing our own problems and that probably he is just feeling frustrated with all the situation, what is normal. I recommended that, maybe, was better for him to take the time he needs to think about all that happened and about the effort, time and money that he invested. Giving up when you are just almost reaching your goal just because you have a setback is just dumb. Sometimes all you need is time to think it better. So, take the time you need.
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